It is not easy to let go of the pain caused you in the past. It takes alot of soul searching on your part, to clearly define what it is you are feeling, and trying to decide how to deal with those feelings in a positive and rebuilding way. And then start practicing it. The hardest part of all is to seperate yourself from whoever hurt you, and realize that whoever or whatever hurt you in the past is seperate from YOU. You have the power to CHOOSE what you want to be like, and how to react to what has happened to you. You are in charge of your life, and noone can take that from you. You can relinquish it to someone else, but only if you allow it. But ultimately you are in charge of your life, including how you choose to ACT upon what has happened to you, and how it has affected you. At some point, with careful effort, and continued practice, you can learn to control your thoughts, your responses, and even gain insights into what happened, and choose to not REACT to the past hurt, but to ACT in the present moment according to your own best desires, being your own best self, in any given situation. I am not saying that it is easy, but it can be done. In time you can even disassociate yourself from whatever hurt you, and hopefully even forgive. We are not all blessed with the same understanding, loving kindness from others, or even personality traits. But none of us are perfect. I am not perfect, but I try to do the best I can, which I never think is good enough somehow, even if others think it is. I hope to be forgiven by others for my blunders and mistakes. Some who hurt us may not even care if they are forgiven or not, it doesn't matter. It matters, if YOU forgive them, because they are not perfect. It will release YOU, so that you can get on with your life. But this may come only with time. You probably will never forget the hurt it caused you, but it will become less severe, and penetrating in your daily life. As long as you keep thinking about the past, and the hurt you endured, you are focusing on the PAST, and forgetting to see the PRESENT moment, and living in it. What is it YOU would love to to in you life now? What do you look FORWARD to? Set some goals. Dream about a happy future, and try to avoid missing those things because you are stuck in the past, which cannot be undone. I know it is hard to get past it, but it can be done. But you must take control of your life, and not let the past control you.